Slidell teens recovery slow, support still pouring in

Fundraiser planned to help family with medical expenses

By Anne Lautzenheiser
St. Tammany News
Published on Wednesday, June 18, 2008 7:51 AM CDT



For the family of Ashlee Stokes, even the slightest cough is a reason to rejoice.

'€œThey told us it would be a very long road,'€ said Ashlee'€™s mother, Karen Stokes. '€œEvery little movement is another step forward.'€

The Slidell teenager has been in a coma since May 25, when an allegedly drunk driver crossed the center line on Fish Hatchery Road in Lacombe and slammed head-on into a car that Ashlee was driving. The girl received severe head injuries and was airlifted to University Hospital in New Orleans, then transferred to the pediatric ICU at Tulane Hospital.

Ashlee Stokes

The accident sent shock waves through her Slidell neighborhood and has rallied friends, family and even strangers to her side. The outpouring of support led a cousin to set up a Web site just a few days after the accident to help keep everyone updated on Ashlee'€™s progress. To date, nearly 200 prayers and other messages of support have been posted.

One is from Tori Bergeron, who mentored the 15-year-old when she joined the varsity cheerleading squad at Northshore High School. Calling Ashlee '€œthe best '€˜little sis'€™ you could ask for,'€ Bergeron noted that she knew from experience what she was going through, and she shared that experience with Karen Stokes on a recent hospital visit.

'€œA new doctor had come in last week, and he was very direct about Ashlee'€™s chances for recovery,'€ said Karen. '€œHe used words such as '€˜unlikely'€™, and it was a real blow.'€

Karen said a nurse came in at that moment to announce the Stokes family had visitors. It was Bergeron and her mother, who had heard about the accident that very day and drove immediately to the hospital.

Bergeron was in a similar accident in 2006, and her family was also told that the prospects for recovery were slim.

'€œIt was so inspiring to see this young girl who had been through this exact thing and know she made a full recovery,'€ Karen said.

Visitors have filed in and out of the ICU to visit with the Stokes family. The entire NHS cheering squad has stopped by, and another friend, Chris Eschete, has written and recorded a song for the girl.

In addition, another family friend, Eddie Deckwa, has arranged a spaghetti dinner fundraiser at Community Christian Church on July 19 from 4-8 p.m.

The Stokes family just met Deckwa, the father of one of Ashlee'€™s classmates, about a month before the accident. Deckwa needed help with pest control for his new restaurant, Eddie D'€™s, and David Stokes, a Terminix sales representative, gave him a call.

'€œThe first thing he said when he met me was how great he thought Ashlee was,'€ said David. '€œHe'€™s just been an angel since the accident.'€

Deckwa has continuously provided food for the family since the accident, and proceeds from the fundraiser will help the family with medical expenses.

Tickets are $10, and raffle prizes will include gift cards to local stores, signed Saints items and a riding lawn mower. The church is located at 1470 W. Lindberg Drive in Slidell.

A bank account has also been set up in Ashlee'€™s name at Central Progressive Bank. Donations may be made at any CPB branch or mailed to Ashlee in care of Cindy Wilson, P.O. Box 101, Mandeville, LA 70470.

Ashlee'€™s progress is slow, but good. She is no longer breathing with a ventilator, has moved her toes and fingers and has coughed a few times. She still has not moved in response to a command, however, which doctors tell the family will be the next big step.

The family is coping by keeping a verse from 2 Corinthians as their mantra.

'€œIt says, '€˜we walk by faith, and not by sight,'€™'€ said Karen. '€œWe can'€™t go back, we can only move forward.'€

For more information on the July 19 fundraiser or donations, e-mail Cindy Wilson at cinnyv@yahoo.com.


Comments

9 comment(s)

    Richard family wrote on Sep 4, 2008 2:24 AM:

    " To the stokes family:
    God is still on the thorn. Keep the faith and he will work his miracle.
    My only child attains Northshore and she is effected like most of the natives of our wonderful Slidell. We continue to help with funding behind the scences. "

    Nikkii Turlich wrote on Jul 15, 2008 5:45 PM:

    " I know Ashlee's father through Terminix. They are a great family and this has really hurt them! She is one of the most beautiful young girls that I have ever seen in person. The penalties against drunk driving should be harsher in an effort to help prevent more tragedies like this one!! The web site for Ashlee is at ashleestokes.com. You can write a message directly to her family there. "

    Mable wrote on Jun 28, 2008 12:57 AM:

    " My 5yr. old granddaughter is a cancer patient at Tulane Hospital. (off and on) She saw all the flowers in the waiting room and said she hopes that Ashlee is getting better like she is. Riley has a long road ahead of her but prayers and faith encourges the whole family and gives us stength to encourge and help her. Never give up! We look forward to a time when no one will say "I'm sick". Isaiah 33:24 My daughter graduated from Northshore in '95. Our prays and Riley's also are with Ashlee and family. "

    Someone who cares wrote on Jun 22, 2008 9:30 AM:

    " It's sad to know yet another child is hurt by a drunk driver . Ashlee don't give up 'GOD IS WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY ' "

    Stacy wrote on Jun 20, 2008 8:29 AM:

    " I was involved in a drunk driving accident as well. I hit the drunk driver out of a ditch and he fled the scene. Today after several years I do not think anything was done to him. Ashlee you and your family are in my prayers. Keep fighting to get better soon. You have a long road ahead. "

    Thomas Monroe Peters wrote on Jun 19, 2008 9:38 AM:

    " Ashlee I want you and your family to know that you are all in my prayrers. I can only wish God's Bless unpon you all. Keep the faith and everything will work out according to God's plan.

    God Bless You All. "

    Beatriz Williamson wrote on Jun 19, 2008 12:17 AM:

    " This is all wonderful news. It is very encouraging to hear about Ashlee's progress and even more encouraging to see your faith!

    Jesus said, β€œThis sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God, that the Son of God may be glorified through it.” John 11:4

    Keep up the faith for without faith, it is impossible to please God.

    God bless,

    Beatriz Williamson (Terry Eschete's sister) "

    Concerned wrote on Jun 18, 2008 2:50 PM:

    " It is really disheartening to see yet another promising young Slidellian harmed by a drunk driver. How much longer can we tolerate this happening without taking some drastic and perhaps harsh steps to prevent it? "

    joann wrote on Jun 18, 2008 12:04 PM:

    " i will keep ashlee in my pray i had acousin just got of a hospital to from a coma good luck i will donta 50.00 to cpb "

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